It can’t come out if it doesn’t go in.
I heard these words often as a child: What goes in, comes out. That’s because our attitudes bred of boredom, anger, or laziness came out in work or in play.
When I was a kid at home, there were words I never considered saying because I didn’t hear them. You know what happened. I grew older, became more exposed, and thus my vocabulary increased.
Sometimes a thought or phrase popped into my mind. I remember thinking, Where did that come from?!
It came from exposure. There are some exposures we can’t help because of our daily activities and responsibilities. There are other exposures that we can blame on no one but ourselves. We choose what we read, listen to, the places we go, and the company we keep.
If it goes in, it will come out
Much of what comes out of our mouths is a result of what we ourselves have fed into our minds. It can happen from what we read, listen to, or watch. The more we fill our minds with things not good, the more likely it is to have the bad come out . If it goes in, it comes out.
It’s the same with conversations we have with others. What goes in comes out. The more we surround ourselves with negativism, the easier it is to feed negativity. Before we know it, it’s taken over our minds and is spewing out our mouths.
Whether it’s words, attitudes, or mindset, what we allow ourselves to be fed will eventually show up in our own words, attitudes, and mindset. Problem is, it’s harder to see it in ourselves than in others.
Stop the cesspool
There’s a way to curb negative things coming out of our mouths, and that’s to curb what goes in. Sometimes this means giving up some shows or movies. We might need to refuse to read things that will cause our minds to wander, envy, or lust. Sometimes we need to avoid conversations or even people whose attitudes wear on us.
The solution itself isn’t so hard, but doing it can be difficult. In the end, we need to decide how badly we want to make a change. If we really want something, we will be willing to do what it takes to make that change.
Next time you’re tempted to get back in the cesspool, stop and ask yourself if this is the price you want to pay. Map out where you want to go, then follow the right directions to get you there.