The Secret Giver

  Those cool spring evenings and cooler nights are some of my fondest memories of growing up, especially on May Day eve.  That was when we went to the woods and gathered buckets and tubs of wildflowers from the river bank, the shaded woodlands, and the swampy marshes along the winding dirt road. I won’t be there to help, but this year marks the 49th year of this May Basket tradition. To think: it started … Read more

Choosing Life

Every spring when the tulips push through the sod and burst into bloom, I remember a conversation I had with my children several years ago. We planted tulip bulbs in the fall, and a few weeks later, one of the children asked, “Why are the flowers not coming up?”  They expected to see quick results. “The bulbs have to die first so the flowers can live,” I explained.  “It’s just like living for God.” It … Read more

Baked Macaroni

When you’re searching for an easy recipe to take to a potluck or to serve for Sunday lunch, this recipe is an easy go-to one. There is  no last-minute stirring and mixing because it will have been done three hours earlier. You can choose your style of macaroni; I usually use elbow macaroni, but that’s entirely up to you.  You’ll need butter, milk, shredded cheese (or Velveeta), and Salt and Pepper.  Oh yes, you’ll need … Read more

Six Ways To Handle Family Discord When Someone You Love Is Dying

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My stressful day in ICU was about to become even more stressful. My patient was dying. The doctors, who are taught to help their patients live, had reckoned with the fact that it was just a matter of time. I realized my biggest problem was not the patient or the doctors. My biggest problem was this patient’s family. I didn’t know them well, but I’d been around them long enough to feel their tension and … Read more

On Level Ground

“Have you ever thought about it,” a fellow nurse asked me one day, “that going into Isolation makes us all equal?” It’s true.  Our education, experience, age, and culture might be different.  Yet,  when patients need to be protected or when health care workers need protection, those going into the patients’ rooms wear caps, gowns, gloves, and masks. No stranger can tell who is the doctor and who is the aide.  They look identical.  The only … Read more