The Traffic Ticket That Almost Was

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Pre-Ticket Talk

A few days before we were heading out of state for a short vacation trip, I reminded Dave about the inspection on our vehicle. It had expired – which he already knew. It was more than just a few days expired, too – which he also already knew.

“You know if someone notices this is another state, you’ll get nailed,” I told him. “You’ve got time to get it inspected before we leave.”

“Don’t you worry about it,” my hubby told me. “That’s my department. Let me worry about it.”

So I did.

To let him worry about it meant I had to quit worrying. I did that, too.

That’s because I remembered the time years ago when my cousin got stopped for the same thing. She simply told the officer to write the ticket out to her husband, since that was his department. Instead, the officer tore up the ticket. I didn’t think I’d ever get a chance, but if it should happen, I was prepared!

Little did I know . . . my opportunity was just hours up the road.

We traveled through Virginia and headed toward West Virginia. As we neared the West Virginia border, we stopped at a small Mom-and-Pop convenience store to fuel our car. Dave unbuckled our six-month-old son and carried him inside the store. I slipped back outside to grab his sippy cup just as a state trooper pulled in right beside our vehicle.

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That Ticket Giver

“Ma’am, is that your vehicle?” he asked me as he stretched his long legs out onto the pavement.

“Yes, sir, it is,” I replied.

He gave me one of those got you this time looks and pulled his pad out of his pocket. I can’t stand it when I think someone in a position like this tries to intimidate me. Let me tell you, the intimidation attempt was there in full force. This gal? I was determined not to be intimidated.

“Ma’am, are you aware that your inspection has expired?”

“Yes, sir, I’m quite aware,” I replied, thinking it was just too bad that Dave wasn’t outside with me. I did my best to keep a straight face on this one because it appeared that Dave was about to be had. (Yes indeed, I was going to love every minute of this!)

“Well, ma’am, I’m going to have to give you a ticket,” he said.

“Yes, sir,” I replied, pointing to Dave and our son, who could easily be seen through the window of the store. “You see that man in the store there? The one carrying the baby? That’s my husband. This inspection is his department, and I’m not supposed to worry about it. So could you just go inside and talk to him about it, please?”

I’m not sure what he said, but he put his pad away and went into the store.

I followed him, but I deliberately kept my back to the trooper and stayed in a different aisle of the store. I was laughing inside, and even though I wasn’t crazy about the cost the ticket would bring, I was gloating. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw the officer head toward the section where Dave was standing.

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Finally, I thought, he will get caught. Maybe next time he won’t be so stubborn.

We proceeded with purchasing our snacks and then headed out the door.

The Ticket That Never Came

I waited and waited and waited for Dave to say something.

He didn’t.

Was he too proud to admit he’d been caught? I wondered.

Yet, he calmly just maneuvered back onto the road and headed northwest.

A few miles later (it was killing me, folks) I asked him if the officer had spoken to him.

“What officer?” he asked.

Would you believe Dave never even noticed the guy? Not a word exchanged between them!

“This is so not fair!” I fussed. “You know if it had just been me, he would have given me a ticket. How could you get away with this?!”

It’s been thirty years, and every once in a while when we drive past that convenience store, I remind him. Actually, I just ask him if he remembers. He just grins at me. He remembers all right. He remembers the ticket that almost was.

Ticket Lessons

This I know. Since that time, my man keeps our inspections up to date. He’s a stickler about that sticker! Not only that, it grates him when his kids have expired inspection stickers on their vehicles. I wonder why.

It was a lesson well-learned for both of us.

I learned how freeing it is to not claim responsibility for what is not mine to claim. Really!

It was fun telling the officer to give the ticket to Dave, but it was more fun knowing it wasn’t mine to claim. I think we all know what Dave learned, as evidenced by up-to-date inspection stickers on every single one of our vehicles.

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Finding The (Not So Elusive) Will of God

 

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Usually when I’m trying to find something I’ve lost, I re-trace my steps.  I think about where I had it last or where I used it last.  I try to remember if I loaned it to someone. I pray about it – especially if it’s something important.

One day I decided to look one more time for a Social Security card.  I prayed and asked God to help me find it if it was still in our house. This time, I felt impressed to look in a certain box again.  I felt an urge to pull out all of the cards instead of flipping through them one by one. That is when I found the missing, prayed-for card. I was so surprised.

So surprised that I exclaimed out loud to my empty house, “I can’t believe this!”

Really?  Why should I have been surprised?  Had I not asked God to help me find it so I wouldn’t have to pay to replace it?  Why should I be surprised that He said yes?!

I wonder if sometimes we’re like that when we’re trying to figure out His will in any part of our lives. I wonder if we really expect God to answer.  Maybe we don’t really want His answer because we already know part of what it is.  We feign a desire to know His will and act like we just can’t figure it out, when we already know.

the will of God is found in His Word

There are several points to consider when we’re trying to learn what His plan is for us.  When the will of God seems elusive, maybe it’s a good idea to retrace our steps and go back to where we started: with God and His Word.

finding nectar is like finding the will of God

God doesn’t ask something of us that is not in our ability to do, and He gives grace for what He requires of us.  I could never be a surgeon; I don’t have the dexterity (or the brains) necessary.  God gifts us for the things He expects us to do.  At the same time, God sometimes asks us to do things that are out of our comfort zone.  Our comfort zone and our abilities are not the same. We need to remember that. If we really want to be like Jesus, we need to be willing to manifest all the fruits of the Spirit – and not just the one with which we feel most comfortable.  Sometimes saying “That’s not my thing” is really not biblical.  We need to remember that God will or has equipped me with whatever it takes to fulfill His plan for me.  [James 4:6]  “But he gives more grace. Therefore he says, God resists the proud, but gives grace unto the humble.”

God never asks us to do something that is contrary to His word.  If what we want to do is not plumb with His word, then it is obviously outside His will.  Emotions, feelings, desires or wants have nothing to do with what God asks of us.  Even common sense or pieces falling into place are not His plan for us if those pieces do not coinside with God’s word.  If a job or other situation requires things that are contrary to God’s Word,  we know it is not for us.  We ought not to make excuses or think, this is different.  It really isn’t different just because it’s us.  Don’t ever use “This is different” for an excuse to not go God’s way.  He is a God of order and not confusion.  He doesn’t change. His Word is still the standard by which we measure. [Amos 7:8]

finding God's will can be like digging through the sand

God has put people in authority over us as a guard and a guide for us.  Those folks are often the ones who voice the most caution and concern, sometimes throwing a wet blanket on our plans.  Those folks also have more life experience than we have; therefore, they can see dangers and pitfalls that we might never have considered.  In addition, usually those in authority over us have known us for a long time; that’s important when we’re seeking direction.  They know us in ways our newest friends don’t.

When our plans are in conflict with those in authority over us,  we can know we should take a different route.  If our plans align with God’s plan for us, He can change the hearts of those in authority over us, even if they are not children of God. If He is big enough to change the hearts of kings and authorities who do not believe in Him, [Prov 21:1 ] (The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD, like the rivers of water; He turns it wherever He wishes”),  He’s big enough to change the hearts of anyone who stands in our way.   Our ministers are responsible before God and “must give account for our souls.”[Hebrews 13:17]  Likewise, scripture tells us to honor our parents regardless of their relationship with God. [Ephesians 6:2; Mark 7:10; Deut 5:16]. If we’ve never experienced the excitement of seeing God soften someone’s heart, is it perhaps because we’ve never given God the opportunity to allow Him to turn hearts?!

It’s true that in a multitude of counselors, there is safety. [Proverbs 11:14, 15:22]  We should make sure that this “multitude” does not consist only of those in our age group, those who are our best friends, or those who would not encourage us to seek God first.  Perhaps we should dare to hear the heart of our most skeptic friend or acquaintance instead of just heading to the friends who we know will most likely support us. From personal experience, I know how freeing it is to follow this plan. I remember the day (as a twenty-eight-year-old), I walked into my stepfather’s shop to ask him what he thought of the man I had started dating. After a failed relationship a few years earlier, I had committed myself to only dating a guy with the blessing of my family. How wonderful it was to get his approval as opposed to how it was with a guy I had dated previously.

finding the will of God can be like finding an open door

Let God be the one to open or shut doors. This sounds simple, but it’s easier said than done. It can be fairly easy to manipulate things so they work out the way we want.  That’s not waiting on God.  That’s not allowing Him to show us what He wants.  Personally, this has been one of the hardest things in life, to sit back and wait.  For 120 years, Noah built a boat. At God’s command, he and his family obediently went into the Ark. God shut the door.  The eight of them waited, and waited, and waited.  They waited inside the Ark with all those animals for seven days before it even started to rain!  If I had been the one planning it, I would have had the rain start as soon as the doors were shut. I would have wanted to get the show on the road!

When we allow God to open the doors, there’s such freedom in walking through them instead of forcing them open so we can walk through. Resist the temptation to manipulate.  Don’t badger God. Wait until He opens the door.  If the door never opens, then it’s time to stop knocking on that door and find the door that He has had open all along.

being is more important than doing in finding the will of God

Be more concerned with being instead of with doing

Let your heart become so in tune to God that you won’t even want to beg for something that God doesn’t want you to have or do.  It’s true that scripture tells us that if we pray, He will give us the desires of our heart. [Psalm 37:4:”Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”]  He will only give us the desires of our heart when they are in harmony with His desires for us.

While we are waiting for Him to open doors and change the hearts of those who do not give their support, we need to delight in Him.  As we learn to know Jesus, we will learn to know His heart by delighting in Him.  [Psalm 37:5] “Commit your way unto the LORD; Trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.”]

Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth. [II Timothy 2:15] That is part of being.  While we are waiting for God to open doors or to reveal Himself to us, we should be focusing on being and becoming.  We do that by feeding on His word.  Climb up into His lap and ask Him to show you His heart. His Word not only changes others, it can change us, too.

As we learn who He wants us to be, finding His will won’t be so hard to do.

 

[This article was first published in Daughters of Promise magazine.  For information bout this magazine, click https://www.daughters-of-promise.org/#our-storyhere.]

 

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